fun week

well it's eather feast or famin LOL
on thursday i went and played with a couple, i met her at the last swinger party i was at. she finally talked her new bf into trying a three way, was a lot of fun. they were both nervus at first, him becouse he had never done it before and her becouse it had been so long since she did it. but once we got going it was all good and everyone relaxed and had a good time.
i find for most guys with there first threesome they are always nervus, some guys even have a hard time keeping a hard on. but he did ok.

then friday, last night, i went to W&G's place and played with them, well mostly him but she did join in for a little while. he finally tried some viagra, he had a groin injury and was having issues, but the viagra did the trick, no problem. gotta love viagra! LOL

tonight I went to W&G's daughters place for a cristmass get together, they are open with their kids about swingingso i got invited, a bit differant but everyone seems nice.

i finally got ahold of the black guy i met just before my computer died, last sunday he said we were going to meet up this sunday, but i haven't heard from him since so am hoping he will get ahold of me tonight to conferm. so will have to wait and see what happens.

for tonight i am tired, might go to bed early

new couple to play with

well i haven't been on here for awhile.
thats what happens when your comuter dies on you i guess.

soo the golfer guy, well we went on that 3rd date to the strip club had a blast and i haven't heard from him since. not a word.

so in moving on i met a black guy, 55 years old, seemed very nice, but my computer died right after the first date, haven't heard from him since. (i did give every one on my msn my new home number, so if he had made any effort at all he coulda gotten ahold of me)

but the good news is i met a new couple to play with. i'll call them W and G and they know my biker couple that i play with! W&G took me too a nude swim at a pool, and i got to suprise the biker couple, they were pretty happy to see me. had a blast. good thing i played with W&G before we went swimming couse by the time we got back we were all to tired to play, so we just stayed up late talking and played in the morning.

since then W has been so attentive, always coming over, even when i can't play, to just hang out. he calls all the time. and G is OK with all that (he is allowed to play seperate, she told me her self) i just need to find a single guy who is like that now lol

haven't had to many e-mails on the date sites in awhile, just a guy in a near by town who seem like my type, but he doesn't have a car, no way to come see me....

maybe i have already met all the swinger guys in town lol naa don't think i could ever run out of guys that want to be aloud to sleep around hehehe

trip to the big city

wow it has been awhile since i have been on here, that long since i got laid!

had to go all the way back to the city i moved here from to get some, (and see my son and friends) i stayed with an X, he is very good in bed, unfortunately he is an X for a very good reason, anger management issues. he ran out of weed one day and totaly freaked on me when i would not lend him my last $5. so i had to pack up and go to A's house. he maid me feel better, he tied me up and fucked me good ;-).

i was supposed to go to this chicks house, she has a dungeon. too bad she ended up being busy. there was a few people i didn't get to see. oh well next time.

but now i am back at home sweet home

i went on a first date with a new guy just before i left town so when i got back we got to do a kinda second date...he was short on time but we did make it to the bedroom. and i approve, he made sure he made me cum with his hands a few times before we fucked. he's never been with a girl who could squeeze their pussy muscles. i knew that going in so I did it a lot, he sooo loved it.we plan to do a proper date next time and maybe go to the strip club. I'll call him the golfer.

the young paramedic is proving to continue to get a hold of me late in the evening and trying to just come over for sex, i keep saying no and telling him to make a plan with me at least 24 hours notice and an actual date, but he seems incapable of it... he may just be the guy i get to take me to the swinger parties if i do not have a date, i will at least see him there anyways.

the old paramedic SAYS he wants to see me again but is not even making an effort to chat with me on msn so he may be on the way out.

new couple

well the couple I met with worked out, I saw them again the other night and we had a great time hanging out and drinking a bit and then even more fun in the bed room. they had all kinds of toys and the defiantly knew what they were doing. although some how (and we don't know how) something ended up on his penis, I went to give him head the second time around and my lips went numb! not surprising he couldn't get it up after he was numb! he swore he didn't put anything on it, we figure it must have been transfer from the toy box...was too funny though!
I crashed on the couch naked so when her kids came home the next morning I had to run into the bathroom with my cloths to get dressed lol can't wait to see them again

I met the older paramedic guy, so nice, I have a good feeling about him, but he went to Edmonton because of a sick relative and I haven't heard from him since. It's been over a week. wonder if he just decided not to see me again. I hope not.

It's funny when I write on here about my dates that's all you hear about. the rest of the time I am sitting at home in front of my computer watching TV LOL very dull life, is it a wonder why I need to go out and have fun the way I do?

swinger party

well last Saturday I had an amazing time at a swinger party. finally got to go to another one. the same guy i went to the new years party with took me this time. at least he is reliable! lol

so we got there and I met up with the couple I played with last time. was good to see familiar faces right away. last time I didn't know any one but the host. and I was not there too long when the guy from my older biker couple showed up. was soo happy to see him. just too bad his wife couldn't make it (yeast infection). and then it was time for the lingerer. pretty much all corsets and some sexy costumes. I had a budget of $35 (from my date)and all the corsets were sooo cheep ( $36- $50 each!) I foung a nice one for $36 and got an extra loony from one of the guests. I let him put it in my cleavage. so we were all wearing our new corsets all night.

well mine came off when I went and played with my biker guy in the bedroom, then the rest of the night I was running around in just my brown lace booty short panties.
I got to play with soo many boobies. and played soo much 4 guys in all and a few girls. even got to fist the one girl.

and out of the party I met a nice guy who I went on a date with last night, looks like he is looking for a steady girl so we will see how it works.(I will call him the young paramedic)
I made a friend of the girl I fisted, she lives in the same town and seems real nice, she came over the other day so I could take some pics of her in her Corset (I have new pics too, maybe I will post one on here)
and I gave my e-mail to a very hot sexy girl, hoping she gets back to me.

the next morning everything hurt, the tops of my legs, my tummy and neck and shoulders. took 3 days for that to go away. you know you've had fun when LOL

tomorrow I get to meet a new guy I've been talking to on line for a bit (the older paramedic) he is 55 and seems like a total sweaty and that he likes to treat women like a goddess.
on Saturday I get to meet a new couple I have talked to for a week or so. she seems very nice, haven't talked to him yet. we are going out for some drinks and then dancing at the club. been soo long since I went out dancing! can't wait!

so looks like my summer is picking up nicely. hope it continues.

respect

I haven't written in a bit because i was pondering a few happenings for a bit.

a few weeks ago I went on a first date with a good looking black guy. even though I told him I do not have sex on the first date he kept pushing and pushing, I was kinda horny anyways... but I should have just told him off and walked away when he implied that coming all the way from the town (a half hour away) was a wast of time if he didn't get laid...but I didn't and agreed to sleep with him after he promised it was not a one night stand. well as expected he was a selfish lover who only cared about himself getting off, and surprise he has never gotten back to me, not that I would want to see him again anyways. I am very upset with myself for getting duped into yet another one night stand and because I did not walk away from a rude guy when I should have. maybe I am more addicted to sex then I thought. or it really does take me 24 hours or so to think about a date before I can really decide if I want to see them again. I tend to ignore obvious faults and rudeness at first until I am able to think on it later.

then just this week a guy I had dated when I first moved to the province was trying to talk to me and such, I told him I was not interested in dating him again he had fucked that up when he told me he didn't want to see me again until I provided him with another girl to play with us...he said fucking was not dating. I told him I didn't want to have sex with him either, I only wanted to be friends and he got upset. told me that was all I was good for, that no one would ever think different of me,and that he was the best I could hope to get.

my main thoughts on that that is what an ASSHOLE! and just because I love sex does not mean that is all there is too me. and besides I am good at a few other things besides sex.

I'm and artist and a herbalist. I take a healing herbal concoction over to the mission every day and apply it to anyone with an owey or a sunburn. if someone is hurt worse I give them a full container to apply constantly. and I am always told how nice i am.
my FWB guy was over when the asshole was saying all the crap to me and he thinks the asshole is totally wrong as well. considering I have pretty much cut off my FWB from sex the last few months, and amazingly he still comes over for a few days every week just to hang out, talk and watch tv with me (but i have to admit he is the first guy i have cut off that really still wanted to be friends after)

so between the guys who use me for one night stands and the asshole and am feeling very disrespected. respect is a very big thing with me. anyone i sleep with on a continual basis respects me, the ones that don't I just stop seeing. so I do know there are guys who will respect me regardless of my sexual appetites.

my problem is that there are sooo many guys out there on the net date sites that do not respect women at all and no matter how I word my bios all they read is bisexual swinger and they think that is all I am about and that I am an easy target for a one night stand. I've always had that problem of people miss understanding me because I talk bluntly about sex but it seems to be accelerated because I am talking to so many guys in such a short time. but really I am getting tired of the frogs. and any decent guy I have met, the really nice guys are lousy in bed. these days I would just be happy to get past a 3rd date with someone who is actually interested in having a real relationship.

so my sub girl set me up with a master she plays with sometimes.
he came over and we chatted for a bit, before he hog tied me. very much a first for me and i totally loved it! nothing like feeling that helpless and under someone Else's control.

this is the first time i have been tied up by a true dom. It's a very different experience then just being tied up by a playmate. i think it's the first time I've been tied up that i really couldn't get out of it. trying to give him head while tied up on my tummy was one hell of a work out LOL can't wait to see him again.


so it's my birthday on the 16Th trying to set up a small sex party with a few playmates the weekend before. and going to a swinger party the weekend after, so June should be a very good month for me :-)
only problem is i am sure that on one of those dates i am going to have my period :-(
if it's my party i can at lease postpone it.. just a matter of waiting and seeing.

lucky me

so my sub girl dumped her dom.

so that works out very good for me.
she invited me over last night and we had a blast, watched some porn, then a movie about sub/dom call "the secretary" great movie, i thought she would be able to relate to the girl in the movie and i was so right.

after the movie we had a shower together to clean up and then played, took turns tieing each other up, got out some toys and whips, and of course the vibrator. Had a blast and wore each other out. she's alot of fun in bed, and a bit more kinky then most. hard to make her cum but so worth it when she does. i even broke out the chocolate paint, so we had to shower up after as well to get all the sticky off lol

I am very excited about our relationship and hoping it lasts for awhile.
and hoping she can come to my b-day sex fest. so far it's just guys LOL

my x is coming up from Calgary for it, my FWB is coming, and the male half of the Calgary couple i haven't met yet has promised to come as well.

i am hoping my sub girl can get at least one other girl to come and play
don't want all guys.

still waiting for the biker couple to heal up from his circumcision, poor guy.

had to tell the gamer guy that i don't want to sleep with him any more, he's just no good in bed ( I said it nicer though)

oops

well i mess up a bit

that girl I met, the sub, she got in trouble for playing with me. you know with guys i make sure that they are aloud to play separate from there spouse. but i didn't ask her. i guess i assumed she was aloud because she is his sub and (i thought)wouldn't do anything she wasn't aloud to do.
unfortunately he way over reacted and she is not aloud to see me again and he has been verbally abusing her calling her a slut and a whore...her one big rule as a sub is that verbal abuse is NOT aloud. so she is kinda putting her foot down on that, i hope they can work it out, and hope he stops. he has gone from being a dom to just a bully, and that's not right.

on another note i finally slept with the the male half of the gamer couple and was very disappointed, he just doesn't seem to know what he is doing and after repeated requests from me to go harder he just couldn't. so now again i have to let him down easy without out telling him he sucks in bed.

so it's been a busy few week LOL
i do have a first date planed with a new guy, but when i told him i was bi-polar he seems to balk and suddenly had to go, so i have the feeling i won't here from him again, I'll be surprised if i do get to go on a date.

new girl!

So i was going through girls adds on the date sites, i saw this girl and i recognized her, I've seen and talked to her around town. her bio was cool, she's also into pagan stuff and healing plants and well she's almost like another me! so i got ahold of her and we chatted then she came over the next day, can you believe she lives just a few blocks away?!

OK i am all excited
she came over and we talked for hours, watched a few movies in between. we actually stayed up till 4:30am

so here's her story.

she 20 years old, has been very sexual for many years now. and she is a submissive. she has a boy friend who is her dom 24/7. but he is out of town alot, and he knows she's very bi so he ordered her to find herself a girl friend. for her to play with and for both of them to play with.
she is very into bondage and pain and giving him total control. when she talks about him and what they do together she just glows, you can very much tell she loves it and him.

so i am into bondage but not pain. sounds like they can help me with that. I've never been with a real dom before, so it is kinda exciting.

and me and her got along soo well last night, i can't wait to see her again, we seem to understand each other and have quite a connection already.

and naturally we did fool around before we went to sleep last night hehe.

so am very tired today, but very happy and can't wipe the smile off my face :-)

busy few weeks

well i saw the couple again, that I mentioned in my last post. I think i will call them the "gamers"
couldn't play too much, had my period, but i made him happy anyways.
she doesn't seem to interested in me just yet, but maybe as we get to know each other.
he right away wanted me to come back the next week. he's been trying to get me there the last few days, i keep telling him next week, so will see them on Tuesday as planned.

the guy of my biker couple came for a visit yesterday, we drove out to a nice lookout point with his moter home, fooled around had a few beer and fooled around some more and then more beer, i got all drunk LOL but we had a good time chatting and playing.
and i found out that he and his wife had already met the the gamers! and had played with both of them, he's thinking about calling them up again, but doesn't want me to tell the gamers that i know him LOL small world when you live in small towns, well really we have a collections of small towns in the area, and we travel to and from them for dating all the time. i meet people from all kinds of different towns, i always think it's cool to find someone who is in my small town.

so I'm supposed to see this other guy i met, the one i slept with on the first date.. "goatee guy" we are planning a night of movies and playing at my place on Saturday, so i am hoping that goes through, he's going to confirm on Friday. i think he is more of a player then a swinger, the difference? well i am not sure how to even word it, i mean they are both smiler right...i have to find out if he tells the other girls he dates that he is not monogamous. but i do like him and we seem to have some things in common, i will just have to see where it goes,

i do kind like the idea of having a booty call guy, i keep saying i don't want that, but i am not having sex as often as i would like to, this week is a good week, but the average this last hear is like maybe 2 times a month..i kinda need some regular sex, it keeps me relaxed and in better shape. and besides he is good in bed ;-)

I am trying to plan a birthday party orgy, but so far i have a few guys coming but no girls yet! so i gotta meet some more girls or couples, i went on on line today and checked out a bunch of girls and couples and sent out e-mails, so hoping i get some e-mails back...

new couple

well had a first date with a new couple.

they seem nice, and she is as much or more into horror movies and sci fi as i am.
he is very talkative. but he has to make up for her not being able to talk as much. she got in a car accedent awhiel back and is in wheelchair, and has trouble talking, but when she smiles her whole face lights up.

so was a good day all aorund was nice to get out, was a beutifull day, and i had good company. hope to see them again soon

remember the swinger party i was trying to get to, well the guy who i thought was taking me, confirmed and i gave him the address and everything. then the asshole stood me up! and i couldn't get a hold of anyone else to take me on such short notice, so i was all dressed up and looking sexy, hoping to get a lot of sex that night, and i sat here all night waiting for him...have i mentioned before how much I really HATE being stood up? when i know i am getting go out, i spend all day getting ready, and looking forward to the fun and getting excited, then to not go anywhere, it's such a let down.. why couldn't he have a t least gotten a hold of me to tell me he wasn't going to make it? is it so hard to be considerate?

as for the goatee guy, haven't seen him online since our date, may have been tricked into yet another one night stand...this is why i have the rule about no sex on the first date. grr. I am hoping he is just busy this week, will have to see.

int he mean time there is another guy i am talking to, he's from Scotland. i got a message on my msn today that he wanted to meet me today, but he hasn't been online all day....another wait and see thing.

have i ever mentioned that i hate waiting for things? i am more of an instant gratification type of a person, I'm working on it, but i still hate waiting.

fun week

well it's been a good week for me, I met a new guy, actually met him in person! we went out for a bite to eat and then for a drive, and because I've been so horny lately I broke my rule about no sex on the first date, he was very good, and he's good looking too. has the bald head goatee thing i like, so i will call him goatee guy LOL. hoping to see him again soon. he has all kinds of toys, swing and bondage gear at his place.. think we will go to his place next time hehe.

and then today the male half of my biker couple came by in his motor home, so we had a little afternoon delight. and I had a first, yes even I can still have firsts. he grabbed my belly fat and used it as a handle to fuck me harder LOL never been used for that before!

and there is a lingerie party at the swinger couples place on Saturday, I think I have a date but he had to make sure he didn't have his kids for the weekend (been talking to him on line for months and haven't met him yet..)...if that falls through I get the goatee guy to take me, hopefully. so i really want to go, but I didn't realize it was so soon. now I am scrambling for a date, my own fault I should have checked the date as soon as I heard about it

wow it's been a slow few months for actually meeting people in person and going on the first date, but i have been busy e-mailing and msning.

there's this girl, she gave me a tempting offer her husband of many years is dieing. so she is looking for a woman to fall in love with and live with them, help her through him dieing and take over when he is gone as part of the family...they live on a small farm, animals, garden everything i have always wanted. the only thing we differ on is that i can't be monogamous, and she want's that, soo close. so we agreed to be friends and i will send anyone her way that i think she would like.

i still haven't met the 50 year old who likes to travel, that lives near me...mentioned him before.

still haven't met this other guy, swinger, met him when i met the 50 year old...they are apparently too busy to meet me and i am getting frustrated with both of them

but i did meet a new guy, a sugar daddy looking for a sugar baby, he lives in Maryland and works off shore as an engineer on a big boat that supplies oil rigs. so when he is off work he has nothing but time and money so goes on vacation alot. was talking to him today and he offered to send me an allowance. not sure how much, i didn't want to ask, but i could sure use the funds. he says he takes care of his girls. i could use some spoiling for a bit. he is good looking to, bald black guy, i have a bit of a fetish for bald black guys. talking to him on line he seems nice so far, hoping i like him when i meet him. he is getting time off end of April and is coming out here for a week to meet me. at the rate the other guys are going i will meet him before I meet the guys that actually live here!

I have also met two new couples on line, one couple lives in the city i used to live in, they come out to where i live in the summer every year.

the other couple lives in the next town over, only talked to them once so far but they seem nice and like they would be alot of fun to play with.

soo i am just waiting to actually meet some of these people in person, will be happy if i continue to see just one or two of them beyond the first date.

int he mean time i keep looking, it is a numbers game after all. can't believe i have been doing this online dating here for a year and still haven't met anyone on line i have been on more then 3 dates with. but i am not going to give up just yet.

finaly

well i finaly got some sex, yaa me!

my biker couple finaly came back from their winter in the states.
iIso missed them. they brought their trailer two block from where I live, so I went to them.
had a beer got cought up I love how easy and quickly she comes, and how she is always saying just one more time, then after she comes she says again just one more...and he is so good with his hands, she has to put down mats on the bed to absorb when he makes us squirt. nI always have so many orgasims with them, and I soo needed it, way to long without.

talking to them after, I am in awe how good there relationship is. after so many years, they still love each other, and trust each other enough to start on the swinger lifestyle without getting jelouse. that is so what i want when i fall in love next time, i can only hope next time will be the last time, but these days the odds are against it...but it won't stop me from trying

the good news is that they are officially retired now, and living in their trailer so this summer I might get to see them more often, and maybe, just maybe they will take me on one of there trips. that would be alot of fun I think.

I am still waiting to meet the older good looking guy who likes to travel, I was sick and then once I was feeling better, he got to busy with work, he promises to meet me next week though, I have a very good feeling about him. I hate waiting, never been very good at it.

frustrated

well i have been back from Calgary for month, and have been sick pretty much since i got back. had a cold, then an ear infection, got rid of that with antibiotics, only ti find out i had a virus in my inner i can do nothing for, but wait for it to heal. and of course once i was finished the antibiotics i got a terrible yeast infection, that finally healed up today, just in time for me to get my period.
so no sex for me this month, except a failed attempt with my FWB (no surprise) I couldn't even master bate for a few days there because the yeast infection was so uncomfortable.
i am almost ready to jump the next person to come along!

i just kinda stopped talking to the tow truck driver.
i have two guys i have been talking to online since i started getting sick. but now that i am feeling better, they don't seem to want to make time to meet me. hoping it is just because they got busy.

all in all a very slow month for me and i better have some fun soon i am going to explode!

iny meny miny mo

I suddenly have a few guys who are trying to date me, meet me.

I still have to turn down the tow truck driver, somehow.

there's this really good looking 50 year old, who travels ALLOT and needs someone to take on the trips, and he is a swinger...really hoping we get along when we finally meet.
then there is the guy who found me on facebook, through the swinger couples facebook...he seems nice, he is a swinger so all good there

I've been rather sick for the last week, so waiting till I am better to meet the guys.

but last night one guy talked me into letting him come over while i was sick and looked like shit, he gave me an offer I couldn't refuse. he agreed to bring the ingredients for my cold potion, and to give me a full body massage. he forgot the main ingrediant for the potion but gave me a real good back rub, felt sooo good. I was so sore and tired, so I needed that. but after the back rub we sat on the couch and talked. wasn't long before he was trying to feel me up, I told him to stop a few times but he was being very pushy, i mentioned it to him today, he said he didn't mean to be pushy...but it's one of my rules, don't make me say no more then once. so am not sure, maybe i'll give him one more chance, show him my list of rules. so he knows what they are.

on another note my FWB guy seems to be getting rather jealous when i tell him about dates or other guys. i jet the feeling he is love with me now, so now he is jealous and i am not sure what to do about that. I think we are going to have to have a talk about it, explain to him why I can't fall in love with him.

so I may have allot of fishes now, but I bet by next month, after I have met them for first dates, I will only have one or two. That's how the game is played. if i only date one guy at a time, it would take so much longer, to weed out the bad apples.

I just hope that I can find at least one relationship out of this. so far the 50 year old is in the lead, because he travels and owns his own company, oh and a trip to Vegas is not about gambling, for him, more about the partying..same as me!, i find gambling boring. and when it comes down to it, do I want to lose say $200 playing cards, or, get a lap dance from a beautifully woman,or, go to a swinger party and get laid...um ya I think I'll pass on the gambling. i like that he agrees with me. really hoping I like him.

I'm just not that into you

so how do you tell a guy you are not into them?

the tow truck driver guy: I saw 3 times, had sex with him 2 times...but there is a big problem, he can't make me cum, and he hasn't cum either...the problem is that he barely pushes it in...waaay too gentle and he didn't seem able to go any harder when I requested it. we tried many positions and I even got on top, usually that works because I am in charge, but it still didn't.

is it possible that he is actually too small? but I've been with guys his size before with no problem....I think it is that he just doesn't go hard enough, and when I was on top he wasn't pushing back enough..either way I could not feel much, and I don't think it is going to get any better

so how do I tell him? do I tell him the truth, that he sucks in bed? that's kinda hard on a guys ego, and really it may just be that he is out of practice..been 4 years since he's had sex... he needs some sexersize! strengthening his legs would be key..dry humping a large pillow would do it (making sure he is alone LOL)

maybe I should tell him the truth, might help him in the long run...

some times the truth sucks, but I do hate lieing

Slut or Stud

this is a topic i have to deal with all the time.
guys have open relationships and one night stands and they are called studs for it, they get high fives from there guy friends for "tapping" the latest girl.

women who have open relationships and date multiple people we are called a slut, and looked down on like we are lesser of a person for it. like we should be ashamed of it.

I've been called a slut and a community whore, and even recently a prostitute.

when i tell people i am poly, that i date couples and go to parties, they seem to think i am having sex all the time. I wish! i am lucky to get laid about once every two weeks or so. way less then if i had someone regulare that i was dating.

I guess it may seem like alot of differant people to some, but I am still serching for someone i can spend alot of time with.

the way I look at it, how am i going to find the right partner, if i am not dating all kinds of guys? I don't date them all at the same time though, most guys I only see a couple times or even just once. first date I find out if I like them, if they make it to the second date i want to see if we are sexually compatable, I don't beleve in waiting to find that out, it's impotant to me and i don't put the same signifigance that other people do, sex is just sex, it's fun and no big deal in my books.

I'm starting to understand why most people in the swinging comunity are so in the closet about it... there is such a stigma towards the women, and even the couples. yet there are so many of us who live like this.

it very much bothers me that society says we should be ashamed, why can't we just be ourselves and do what we want? why do people feel the need to look down on others who what to live in a differant way? we are not hurting any body, there is nothing negative about the lifestyle. yet we are made to feel we have to hide what we do.

well I have never been good at lieing. so for me being "in the closet" about my swinger lifestyle is out of the question. my family and friends all know about it..if they have differing opinions about it, well they haven't said anything lol but then i choose to soround myself with posative, open minded people...if my lifestyle bothers someone, well then I'll probably not be friends with them for long.

so people eather love me, or they don't get me and I make then uncomfortable.

so am I a slut or a stud?
I'm just someone looking for love like anyone else, I just go about it differantly

good or bad in bed?

so we all know that some of us are better in bed then others.
but what makes some one "good" and others "bad" ?

I've always been told i was good, but when i think about it...well what is so hard about it? it's not rocket science, rather simple really. I'm not so sure how i could fuck it up.... I've talked to a few people that are presumably "good in bed" they don't get it either.

for example. the biker couple...she comes soo easy, and soo fast and soo often, never seen anything like it before! yes her husband tells me that i am the first besides him that has been able to make her come like that...but it is sooo easy with her, what the hell were these other guys doing?

it's girls too, I've heard the guys complain...she just layed there, didn't do anything...and, she flopped around like a fish out of water...and she got tired to fast and i had to Finnish up before i was ready...

so i figured a few pointers would help some of those who don't understand why they don't get many call backs after sleeping with someone.



first if you are doing a man.

girls, it's even easier then being a guy...if you don't want to ware out too fast, do some excesize..make sure you can keep up with cardio...if you already excersize..you are probably doing ok, but if you don't you need to start, it will improve your sex life and that makes it worth it..do easy cardio things to start, turn some music on and dance..see how many songs you can do in a row, you will be able to do more and more as time goes on...get down on your knees, slightly spread apart and move your ass up and down, kinda like you are on top of a guy but go all the way up and down, do this enough and you won't tire so fast when you are on top. lay on your back and bring your legs and knees up as high as they will go and hold for as long as you can...works the same stomach mussels as when you are on the bottom.
i call this sexersize and a swear it keeps me in shape for sex.
now you need to do more then just lay there...you gotta push back!
and i can not stress doing your kegalls enough!! if you can squeeze his dick while he is fucking you or just after he has come...maybe a little hip rotation while you are at it, he will think you are amazing. and you will be tighter, and enjoy the sex better.
as for foreplay and giving head, no one likes it if you do the same motion the while time...be creative, lick, suck, flick, blow, whatever just do alot of different things and they love it.
all it takes is a bit of effort on the girls part and guys are happy, they just don't want boring, limp woman who get tired after 2 minits of fucking, who does?

now about doing us hard to please woman....or so men think.
number one rule all guys should follow..foreplay foreplay foreplay! play with her boobs, nipples neck. ect.. kiss her lots, gently touch her...when she is squirming then you can touch her pussy, tease her, lick her. be firm with your tong, it's soft a won't hurt us..gentle with your fingers!..nothing owrse then a guy who rubs to hard with his fingers and not hard enough with his tong. if she is not making any noises you are doing something wrong, do something else, when she makes a noise, or grabs you hard do it again!...make sure you give her clit most of the attention, that is where all the nerve endings are..make sure you can find it, if you are not sure ask her, she will be happy to tell you to go higher or lower till you get the right spot.
when using you fingers in her...always start with one, and slowly work your way up as she gets more turned on. now about the g-spot..guys get messed up here, and i am not sure why..if you can move your fingers in a "come here motion" (palm up, fingers curling toward you) you can find a woman's g-spot it is right where your fingers are curling to..on the top of her vagina. if you are not sure feel around the area until she starts getting loud, then stay there.. at this point you can keep just curling your fingers or slide them in and out keeping pressure on the top of her vag wall..of she is pushing against you she want you to go harder...very simple.
ALWAYS make her come at least once before you involve your dick..if you do then no matter what you are doing it will feel good, and if you don't make her cum again or you go all soft, she still had hers and will still be happy..so less pressure for your dick to perform, and i think alot of guys will be happy about less pressure.


an quick exercise i do if i haven't been with a woman in awhile and don't want to wear out to fast..sit cross legged by a wall with a thick pillow against the wall palm facing up punch the pillow (like you are fingering a girl) it works those arm mussels that burn if you are fingering a girl too long..so when you do get a girl, your arm doesn't give out on you.

so that's my pointers, all very simple and easy to master...but when it comes down to it you HAVE TO communicate with your partner and tell them what you want, what works for you and what doesn't and ask them what you can do for them. to many girls are too shy to tell a guy what she wants and how she wants it. we have to be more sure about ourselves and more comfortable with our own sexuality.

trip back to the big city

so i spent the last week back in the big city to see my son (he's almost 15) but I also got to see a few friends and family as well.

I stayed at my X's place while while i was there... ok a quick history on my X we were together for 3 years, in the end he had too much of an anger management problem, just like the other two people I've ever truly loved. trying to get out of that nasty habit lol. he is still madly in love with me, i am not quite over him. he hasn't even been with another woman since I saw him Last Christmass when i was out. he's doing a bit better for himself, his mental illness has been diagnosed and he is well medicated, so we had a nice visit. and had sex just about every night i was there. I gotta say he is one of the best I've ever had. he always makes sure i have had a few orgasms with his tong and fingers before he fucks me, and he is very good at making me cum. :-) the one night i wasn't at hi place i was at B1 's place.

i have mentioned her before, when talking about having the sex party with 5 girls and one guy.
i went to her place and we watched movies, flirted, she wrecked the chicken she was cooking by accidentally putting baking soda in the batter instead of corn starch...LOL was very funny, i quickly took over and made a tomato sauce for the noodles that were already made. it was good. what to say about her, she is very cute and sexy, has a good hart and is a really good, nice person...very rare find. i could almost fall in love with her....too bad i had to move out of town. eventually we got ourselves naked and playing..she smells soo good and such soft skin...

we stayed up late, just talking and flirting, it was hard to leave the next day. there is something about two women together one on one. the energy is so different then with a guy or even with a girl and a guy....it's just better somehow. and well i get to play with boobs all night long as well...that's always good.

i felt kinda special because she had been turning down an X of hers that was trying to get back together with her..her X kept texting her all night long, jealous because she knew i was there...

so except of one night when i was just to tired i had sex the whole time i was gone..now i am tired...i am home and i am going to vegg on my couch for like a week!

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second date

So i actually managed to get a second date last night. went to the strip club very early had a bite to eat and time to talk before the dancers came on and the music started. he seems to be a real nice guy. shy, but i like that. when we got back to my place he just wouldn't make the first move till i said "you prety shy aren't you" LOL shy guys are so cute.

he was very gental, which is nice but after a while it was too gental. and he didn't seem to have the strength in his legs to do much, no matter what postion we tried. but aparently it's been like 4 years since he's had sex or even dated so i think i'll cut him a brake. the first time with someone is never as good as like the 10th time anyways. that why one night stands are mostly dissapointing. well there are always a few good ones.

i remember one young guy i picked up at the bar one night when i was a bit minic and horny. he just kept going and going, my roomates later told me it was 2 and a half hours! the one thing the young guys are good for LOL

anyways back to the date.
i think i will deffinatly see him again, so i guess he needs a nick name now, i think the tow truck driver works.
so i am really hoping this goes somewhere, but it's still too early to tell.

new date

so i had another first date last night. I think it went well, he seems nice and charming. and was respectfull, i even had to make the first move for a kiss good night lol
he drives a tow truck so he's not rich but is getting by comfortably.

i hope to see him again, will have to see next time he is on line.

the unfortunate thing was that after dinner i was soo tired all of a sudden, he wanted to go to the strip club, and so did I but i was so tired i just asked him to take me home.  i hope he didn't think i was just saying that to cut the night short.


on a odder note a guy from one of the sites felt the need to write and tell me i am easy and a comunity whore! don't worry i told him off rather well. but it was a good reminder of what most people think of me and swingers and the whole lifestyle. outsite of the swinger comunity i am looked at as a slut...inside i am treated with respect.. funny how a persons perspective can change how they view others.

no i have know girls who would go out to the bar every weekend and sleep with someone new...nothing but one night stands.

wile i have had a few one night stands in my life i preffer to have someone stick arou nd and get to know them and care about them...sex is always better the longer you have been together.
yes i date mor ethen one person at a time....but hell look at al the first dates i have that go no farther, i figure i am more likely to find that one true love by going on dates and meeting lots of guys girls and couples....one at a time seems like it would take way too long LOL but it's not like i have so many boyfriends at once anyways. just my FWB and the couples

what women realy think of penis size and performance

OMG spell check is gone! I'll just appologise now for my terrible spelling.

so over the years I've talked to many girls and guys about the size issue. you know what? I have only met a few women who like large dicks, I am reffering to anything over say 6 inches. I generally beleeve that those women are a bit bigger inside then most women.
you see most women find that anything over 6 or 7 inches hurts. myself personaly I will not even date guys who tell be they are over 7 inches. it just hurts me too much. and frankly it's harder to give them head as well. with size comes girth and i do not have a big mouth.

so every one seems to be hung up on size, most guys are about 5-6 inches in my experiance and i am just fine with that. but if you think about it the average to small guys have it made...they are more likely to get head, and for longer periods of time--if you are easy on the jaw, you end up getting more...they are also more likely to talk a girl into letting them try anal.--smaller again means less pain.
on the other hand big guys do have girls who wont even give them a chance...the bigger they are the less girls out there that want to try it,  they will get less head and if you have a 9 incher good luck talking a girl into anal, unless she already does it on a regular basis and is stretched. plus big 8-9 inch guys all over will tell you they have to be more carefull when having intercourse so he doesn't hurt her...only once in awhile do they meet a girl who can take it all and he can pound her. now who wants to have to be carefull...I'd rather have a smaller guy who can pound me the a big guy who has to hold back a bit.

I've really only once in my life met a guy who was "too small" i couldn't feel him in me. mostly becouse he didn't have much girth. however he still made sure i was satisfied with toys. so as far as i was concerned it was all good.

another touchy subject is just being able to get it hard and keep it hard
viagra helps but not many of us can afford $15 a pill..kinda like "well we can't afford to have sex tonight dear"... lol
so yes guys i do feel for you when you are having problems, but does that have to mean that you do not satisfy your women?

Men seem to think that in sex it is all about their dicks, sooo wrong.
you should still satisfy your woman no matter what, that way you will not lose her along with not being able to get it up.
as far as i am conserned it's all about the for play. i know it's a bad word for you guys. but here me out. with about an hour of for play and making sure she has already had an orgasim or two...well with less presure to perform right away you get to relax and enjoy your partner, and will probably get a hard on in the prosess (providing you don't have a sereus problem) and if you get soft again go back to making her happy. i find sometimes fingers actually feel better then a dick, dicks don't bend the way fingers can. figures are way better at finding the G-spot. I am told by many guys that have problems that at least still playing and touching is better then nothing, it's not always about having an orgasim. sometimes i feel bad they haven't had one, but they at least make sure I am taken care of... and guys if you take care of her, she won't even be bothered that you couldn't get it up LOL

just one more point.
if you are a bit of an over weight guy if you lose 10-20 pounds your dick will get bigger as the fat around it shrinks back....so if you ever wondered if fat guys had smaller ones or if just looked smaller on there big bodies...well it is smaller. i heard it from Dr. OZ on the oprah show ! lol

to do list

so i think most people have a list in there head of differant sexuall fantacies that they want to do before they die...well at least the pervs like me do anyways lol

so here is mine, i'll start with things i have already done then things i haven't done yet but want to do.

what i have done
-3some with 2 girls
-multi girl orgie-1 guy
-watched friend have sex with a guy
-3some with 2 guys
-played at a swinger party, in front of people
-played in a sex swing
-been tied up
-tied someone up
-had one night stand(s)
-dated couples
-made out with a stipper at the strip club

things i still want to do
--sex in/under/behind a water fall
--a trip to hedonisim
--a 4some with just 2 couples
--take a stripper home
--all girl orgie (4 or more other girls)
--go to vegas for a long weekend and party and get lap dances and watch the stippers ect.
--have a party at a hotel room with all the couples i am playing with
--own a sex swing :-)
--Have a secret room in my house (sex room)
--host my own swinger party
--be the dessert tray at a party--i lay on the table they cover me in fruits and whip cream---everyone eats off of me
--go on a shoping spree at the sex store hehe who doesn't want to do that?

that is all i can think of for now, i have gotten to do alot over the years. more then most people anyways.

New Years swinger party

WOW an amazing night all round and the best new years so far!

my date picked me up early around 6pm after driving all day form where he lives. I'll call him M.
we got to almost there and he realized he had lost the address and phone number for the party.so we stopped where there were a bunch of people and tried to get someone with a phone and Internet so i could get the address off my hot mail account, that didn't work, so M phones the motel we were going to stay at that night and got customer service to use there Internet and go on my hot mail, LOL great problem solving i think, and he didn't even get too upset or loose his cool and get mad...always a good sign for me.

so we got to the party and there were soo many munchies and orderves, great spread and it was such a reasonable price to get in the door too. i really have to had it to the swinger couple for putting on a great party. there was even a sex swing in the basement living room! there was at least 30+ couples there and a few singles. for the first part of the night everyone was just talking and getting to know everyone. a lot of very nice people. now i know you all want to here about the sex part, but they really stressed that we don't talk about what happened at the party...but i get give you a general idea, just not details.

a bit later in the evening people started to drift to the down stairs where all the couches were covered with sheets. pretty soon someone had to try out the swing, her partner was in a wheel chair so they had a lot of fun with it.
then they opened up the hot tub, only a couple people actually brought swim suits. the hot tub was huge too, like the size of 2 average ones. eventually me and M just had to play. right there in the living room some people watching others busy talking to each other like nothing was happening and others playing as well. that pretty much went on all night. i ended up playing with M and another guy with a huge mustache, so he will be mustache guy, and another girl..i had started flirting with her every time i got my coat (she was right in the way..i would rub up nice and close and playing with her boobs..eventually i got to do more. i also met a girl that as is turns out lives about 4 blocks from me! she's very cute and young, just my type...i got her e-mail address so i am going to try to get to know her.

this was such an amazing experience for me. if i compare it to going to the bar...people are more polite and respectful..nudity is not a big deal, there were people of all ages and sizes and that was ok, at the bar it all about looks and the young, people are not polite, I've had guys grab me bite my hair and other things. i think the quality of people at the party was way better, probably because they are all pre-screened by the host and hostess. and i know these people always use protection and get checked on a regular basis, at the bar you just never know. and the best part is that no one judges you, no one will think lesser of you for getting naked and having fun. I would never even flash anyone at a bar because then people look at you like a slut....so i can go to the bar and pick up new guys all the time and live a risky life or choose this much more controlled environment, after a few parties I'll get to know more people, it's always mostly the same people like a fun loving private group. and they all have high sex drives and look at relationships the same way i do. there i am one of many, not the odd girl with the sex addiction. and you know what the whole night i didn't see one person get in a fight, or even an argument with there spouse....most any other bar or house party has at least on of those happen as people get too drunk...we were more focused on enjoying each other.

If there ever was even a little doubt about me deciding to having swinging be my lifestyle, it is gone. it may not be the norm. but there are a lot of people out there that live like this and are happier in there marriages or relationships then most people.