this is a topic i have to deal with all the time.
guys have open relationships and one night stands and they are called studs for it, they get high fives from there guy friends for "tapping" the latest girl.
women who have open relationships and date multiple people we are called a slut, and looked down on like we are lesser of a person for it. like we should be ashamed of it.
I've been called a slut and a community whore, and even recently a prostitute.
when i tell people i am poly, that i date couples and go to parties, they seem to think i am having sex all the time. I wish! i am lucky to get laid about once every two weeks or so. way less then if i had someone regulare that i was dating.
I guess it may seem like alot of differant people to some, but I am still serching for someone i can spend alot of time with.
the way I look at it, how am i going to find the right partner, if i am not dating all kinds of guys? I don't date them all at the same time though, most guys I only see a couple times or even just once. first date I find out if I like them, if they make it to the second date i want to see if we are sexually compatable, I don't beleve in waiting to find that out, it's impotant to me and i don't put the same signifigance that other people do, sex is just sex, it's fun and no big deal in my books.
I'm starting to understand why most people in the swinging comunity are so in the closet about it... there is such a stigma towards the women, and even the couples. yet there are so many of us who live like this.
it very much bothers me that society says we should be ashamed, why can't we just be ourselves and do what we want? why do people feel the need to look down on others who what to live in a differant way? we are not hurting any body, there is nothing negative about the lifestyle. yet we are made to feel we have to hide what we do.
well I have never been good at lieing. so for me being "in the closet" about my swinger lifestyle is out of the question. my family and friends all know about it..if they have differing opinions about it, well they haven't said anything lol but then i choose to soround myself with posative, open minded people...if my lifestyle bothers someone, well then I'll probably not be friends with them for long.
so people eather love me, or they don't get me and I make then uncomfortable.
so am I a slut or a stud?
I'm just someone looking for love like anyone else, I just go about it differantly
You are a slut if you sleep with a lot of people.
ReplyDeleteWhat the term slut is to you however is the real question.
Think of the gay community embracing the term queer.
It was the only way to fix the problem.
Society wont change over the next week or year... so you will be a slut to society.
So, think of it as a good thing.
Be proud of taking control of your sexuality.
Amongst my friends who are female... the term slut is high praise!
thank you so much for your comment, i totaly agree that i should start thinking of slut as a good thing.. it certenly means i will have more fun then most anyways hehe, maybe they are just jelouse.
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