The swinger life style

So many people wander what the life style is really like. Is it as wild and fancy free as it seems from the outside? Well as a swinger myself I can give you a peek into the lifestyle.

The parties, every one hears about the parties. Truly they are the best part of swinging. Two maybe 3 times a year I get to go to a big party. Where I live there is one couple I know of that has BIG parties. Lots of people, a hot tub, rooms ect. They can be a lot of fun, but there are a few rules you should know before you go to such a party. Anyone not following the rule will be asked to leave.
1. no cameras
2. like Vegas what happens at the party stays at the party
3. You can never out someone as a swinger to anyone outside the party (most swingers are very secretive about it)
4. if you see people playing you can ask to join, politely
5. they can accept or decline, politely
6. if they say no you just walk away and talk to someone else
7. don’t start arguing with people

because of these simple rules and the fact that everyone there is very open minded, the general environment is welcoming and friendly. Now most would think that everyone would be getting down to playing right away, but it never happens that way. Usually for the first few hours everyone is just chatting with old friends and meeting new people. Every once in awhile two people see each other and exclaim that they never knew “they” were swingers too! You would be surprised how many people are swingers.

As for what happens once the playing starts. Well that depends on what each person is there for. Some just like to watch. Some only play with people they know or just with each other. Some have specific fantasies they want to act out. And some are open to playing with whoever they meet. Different couples have different rules about who they can or can not play with. Some have more rules, others less.

Everyone is just looking to enjoy themselves. I have yet to see anyone fight or argue at one of these parties, unlike other parties. I personally find that swingers are nicer then the average person. I always enjoy myself and make new friends. (Whether I play with them or not) every time I go to a party I know more and more people there.

So that’s the parties, but what about the rest of the year? Well most couples have a few couples that they play with. Basically great friends they like to hang out with and play with. For most couples this happens maybe once a month some times less some times more. It is not an every day or even every weekend thing. Most couples look at it as a way to spice up their sex lives once in awhile. I myself have 3 couples I play with on going, but I only see them once every few months when they have time.

One good thing about the swinging lifestyle is that there are no jealousy issues. For most couples there is no need to lie or go behind their partners back. For myself I look at it this way. People cheat when in monogamous relationships because there is something they are not getting from their partner. Plus the sex can get boring. with swingers you keep things spiced up with 3 ways and such. Also I feel that it is very hard to provide everything a person needs in a relationship, with swingers that pressure is off.

That all said, some swingers do not play by the rules. A lot of couples have a rule of not playing separate. But then the guys tell girls like me they are aloud to play separate. I have found it very important to have to woman tell me they are aloud to play separate. Just goes to show that some people will just always lie. No group of people is perfect there is good and bad in all of us.

I find the less rules you have the less chance of someone lieing.

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I hope everyone likes the new changes.
I just added a news real gadget, hoping to find relevant news storeys, not sure how good that is working. will have to wait and see. I thought it would be good to have something to read besides what I am writing. lol

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I think it is great that I have a whole 4 members, but do you think you could pass it along to some of your friends? That would be great! Thank you

Stood up twice in one night!

what a horrible night! I've been talking to this guy, J, for a few weeks on msn. He works a lot so took a bit to pin him down for a date. We agreed tonight (saturday) he would meet me at 6pm. Now this guy has talked to me just about every day this last few weeks. but yesterday I didn't here from him, then nothing today to conferm the date. I had a bad feeling about it. Also a few days ago I heard about a fetish dance going on in my town this saturday, and a possible date, R,. I turned him down becouse i already had a date with J. even though i really wanted to go to the dance. Just before 6pm R was online still wanting to go to the dance. So I told him if I got stood up I would like to go to the dance with him. So when I got stood up I convinced him to come down. Apparently when he got here my quite little culdesac was exploding with a whole bunch of people arguing, and then yelling at j and asking him who he was and where he was going... I hear none of this...So he gave up on me and got out of there and went to the dance without me... Of course I forgot to give him my phone number. And to add to all this, as if it were not enough. J from my biker couple J and C. asked me today if there were anything going on in vernon tonight, like maybe a dance...he was going for a ride on his bike and wanted to see me tonight... i turned him down too becouse of the date i got stood up for. grrrrrr sooo months of nothing. then everyone wants to see me on the same day. I go with the one I made plans with first, even when I wanted to cancel. and I end up getting to see no one! ( you can laugh if you want, it's kinda funny) If J had just cancled I would have been able to make earlier plans with J or R and none of this would have happend. you just can't make this shit up I am getting sooo tired of this whole dating thing. How many more first dates am I going to have to have before I find someone? I also hate sitting at home knowing people are out having fun at an event I really want to go to.