good or bad in bed?

so we all know that some of us are better in bed then others.
but what makes some one "good" and others "bad" ?

I've always been told i was good, but when i think about it...well what is so hard about it? it's not rocket science, rather simple really. I'm not so sure how i could fuck it up.... I've talked to a few people that are presumably "good in bed" they don't get it either.

for example. the biker couple...she comes soo easy, and soo fast and soo often, never seen anything like it before! yes her husband tells me that i am the first besides him that has been able to make her come like that...but it is sooo easy with her, what the hell were these other guys doing?

it's girls too, I've heard the guys complain...she just layed there, didn't do anything...and, she flopped around like a fish out of water...and she got tired to fast and i had to Finnish up before i was ready...

so i figured a few pointers would help some of those who don't understand why they don't get many call backs after sleeping with someone.



first if you are doing a man.

girls, it's even easier then being a guy...if you don't want to ware out too fast, do some excesize..make sure you can keep up with cardio...if you already excersize..you are probably doing ok, but if you don't you need to start, it will improve your sex life and that makes it worth it..do easy cardio things to start, turn some music on and dance..see how many songs you can do in a row, you will be able to do more and more as time goes on...get down on your knees, slightly spread apart and move your ass up and down, kinda like you are on top of a guy but go all the way up and down, do this enough and you won't tire so fast when you are on top. lay on your back and bring your legs and knees up as high as they will go and hold for as long as you can...works the same stomach mussels as when you are on the bottom.
i call this sexersize and a swear it keeps me in shape for sex.
now you need to do more then just lay there...you gotta push back!
and i can not stress doing your kegalls enough!! if you can squeeze his dick while he is fucking you or just after he has come...maybe a little hip rotation while you are at it, he will think you are amazing. and you will be tighter, and enjoy the sex better.
as for foreplay and giving head, no one likes it if you do the same motion the while time...be creative, lick, suck, flick, blow, whatever just do alot of different things and they love it.
all it takes is a bit of effort on the girls part and guys are happy, they just don't want boring, limp woman who get tired after 2 minits of fucking, who does?

now about doing us hard to please woman....or so men think.
number one rule all guys should follow..foreplay foreplay foreplay! play with her boobs, nipples neck. ect.. kiss her lots, gently touch her...when she is squirming then you can touch her pussy, tease her, lick her. be firm with your tong, it's soft a won't hurt us..gentle with your fingers!..nothing owrse then a guy who rubs to hard with his fingers and not hard enough with his tong. if she is not making any noises you are doing something wrong, do something else, when she makes a noise, or grabs you hard do it again!...make sure you give her clit most of the attention, that is where all the nerve endings are..make sure you can find it, if you are not sure ask her, she will be happy to tell you to go higher or lower till you get the right spot.
when using you fingers in her...always start with one, and slowly work your way up as she gets more turned on. now about the g-spot..guys get messed up here, and i am not sure why..if you can move your fingers in a "come here motion" (palm up, fingers curling toward you) you can find a woman's g-spot it is right where your fingers are curling to..on the top of her vagina. if you are not sure feel around the area until she starts getting loud, then stay there.. at this point you can keep just curling your fingers or slide them in and out keeping pressure on the top of her vag wall..of she is pushing against you she want you to go harder...very simple.
ALWAYS make her come at least once before you involve your dick..if you do then no matter what you are doing it will feel good, and if you don't make her cum again or you go all soft, she still had hers and will still be happy..so less pressure for your dick to perform, and i think alot of guys will be happy about less pressure.


an quick exercise i do if i haven't been with a woman in awhile and don't want to wear out to fast..sit cross legged by a wall with a thick pillow against the wall palm facing up punch the pillow (like you are fingering a girl) it works those arm mussels that burn if you are fingering a girl too long..so when you do get a girl, your arm doesn't give out on you.

so that's my pointers, all very simple and easy to master...but when it comes down to it you HAVE TO communicate with your partner and tell them what you want, what works for you and what doesn't and ask them what you can do for them. to many girls are too shy to tell a guy what she wants and how she wants it. we have to be more sure about ourselves and more comfortable with our own sexuality.

trip back to the big city

so i spent the last week back in the big city to see my son (he's almost 15) but I also got to see a few friends and family as well.

I stayed at my X's place while while i was there... ok a quick history on my X we were together for 3 years, in the end he had too much of an anger management problem, just like the other two people I've ever truly loved. trying to get out of that nasty habit lol. he is still madly in love with me, i am not quite over him. he hasn't even been with another woman since I saw him Last Christmass when i was out. he's doing a bit better for himself, his mental illness has been diagnosed and he is well medicated, so we had a nice visit. and had sex just about every night i was there. I gotta say he is one of the best I've ever had. he always makes sure i have had a few orgasms with his tong and fingers before he fucks me, and he is very good at making me cum. :-) the one night i wasn't at hi place i was at B1 's place.

i have mentioned her before, when talking about having the sex party with 5 girls and one guy.
i went to her place and we watched movies, flirted, she wrecked the chicken she was cooking by accidentally putting baking soda in the batter instead of corn starch...LOL was very funny, i quickly took over and made a tomato sauce for the noodles that were already made. it was good. what to say about her, she is very cute and sexy, has a good hart and is a really good, nice person...very rare find. i could almost fall in love with her....too bad i had to move out of town. eventually we got ourselves naked and playing..she smells soo good and such soft skin...

we stayed up late, just talking and flirting, it was hard to leave the next day. there is something about two women together one on one. the energy is so different then with a guy or even with a girl and a guy....it's just better somehow. and well i get to play with boobs all night long as well...that's always good.

i felt kinda special because she had been turning down an X of hers that was trying to get back together with her..her X kept texting her all night long, jealous because she knew i was there...

so except of one night when i was just to tired i had sex the whole time i was gone..now i am tired...i am home and i am going to vegg on my couch for like a week!