New Years swinger party

WOW an amazing night all round and the best new years so far!

my date picked me up early around 6pm after driving all day form where he lives. I'll call him M.
we got to almost there and he realized he had lost the address and phone number for the party.so we stopped where there were a bunch of people and tried to get someone with a phone and Internet so i could get the address off my hot mail account, that didn't work, so M phones the motel we were going to stay at that night and got customer service to use there Internet and go on my hot mail, LOL great problem solving i think, and he didn't even get too upset or loose his cool and get mad...always a good sign for me.

so we got to the party and there were soo many munchies and orderves, great spread and it was such a reasonable price to get in the door too. i really have to had it to the swinger couple for putting on a great party. there was even a sex swing in the basement living room! there was at least 30+ couples there and a few singles. for the first part of the night everyone was just talking and getting to know everyone. a lot of very nice people. now i know you all want to here about the sex part, but they really stressed that we don't talk about what happened at the party...but i get give you a general idea, just not details.

a bit later in the evening people started to drift to the down stairs where all the couches were covered with sheets. pretty soon someone had to try out the swing, her partner was in a wheel chair so they had a lot of fun with it.
then they opened up the hot tub, only a couple people actually brought swim suits. the hot tub was huge too, like the size of 2 average ones. eventually me and M just had to play. right there in the living room some people watching others busy talking to each other like nothing was happening and others playing as well. that pretty much went on all night. i ended up playing with M and another guy with a huge mustache, so he will be mustache guy, and another girl..i had started flirting with her every time i got my coat (she was right in the way..i would rub up nice and close and playing with her boobs..eventually i got to do more. i also met a girl that as is turns out lives about 4 blocks from me! she's very cute and young, just my type...i got her e-mail address so i am going to try to get to know her.

this was such an amazing experience for me. if i compare it to going to the bar...people are more polite and respectful..nudity is not a big deal, there were people of all ages and sizes and that was ok, at the bar it all about looks and the young, people are not polite, I've had guys grab me bite my hair and other things. i think the quality of people at the party was way better, probably because they are all pre-screened by the host and hostess. and i know these people always use protection and get checked on a regular basis, at the bar you just never know. and the best part is that no one judges you, no one will think lesser of you for getting naked and having fun. I would never even flash anyone at a bar because then people look at you like a slut....so i can go to the bar and pick up new guys all the time and live a risky life or choose this much more controlled environment, after a few parties I'll get to know more people, it's always mostly the same people like a fun loving private group. and they all have high sex drives and look at relationships the same way i do. there i am one of many, not the odd girl with the sex addiction. and you know what the whole night i didn't see one person get in a fight, or even an argument with there spouse....most any other bar or house party has at least on of those happen as people get too drunk...we were more focused on enjoying each other.

If there ever was even a little doubt about me deciding to having swinging be my lifestyle, it is gone. it may not be the norm. but there are a lot of people out there that live like this and are happier in there marriages or relationships then most people.

lieing men

so what is it with men who lie to their girlfriends or wives? Now considering the men i am talking about are in open relationships, why do the still feel the need to lie? these men have it made, there women let them play with other women, they play with them...so they are getting 3somes and moressomes yet it is still not enough? they have to do more on the side without telling there women about it? ok a few examples

months ago i was seeing this guy, i had met his wife and basically had permission to sleep with her husband and use him as a booty call....so pretty damn open, you wouldn't think there was a need to lie right? wrong...they had a fight one night and she kicked him out for the night...he showed up at my place at two in the morning, so wee played and he spent the night, no biggy right? well later he told her he slept in his car that night. and i am asked to not tell her grrr.

ok so moving along
the biker couple--he found out the hard way that he is expected to tell his wife BEFORE he goes to play with someone, he told her about another girl he had played with and she got very upset, soo he didn't tell her he had been over here without telling her..not wanting to be i n extra trouble.....so once again i am asked to not say anything.

then a new couple i have just met, i met him while she was out of town.. we went out to the strip club and he spent the night on my couch...but we didn't play because i said i had to meet his wife first...soo his wife gets back in town and i meet up with them the other night...he comes to my dorr to get me and as we are walking to his car, i am told to not tell her we had met already because he didn't tell her...grrr again

then just yesterday i am talking to the host of the party, the swinger couple, and he has been over at least 3 times now and i haven't met her...he said she had a broken ankle....he is asking me to be discreet about him coming over and having met him at all....nice word discreet...nice way to say lie!

open relationships are supposed to be based on honesty, the whole idea is that you don't have to cheet and sneek around and lie you can be open about it...now every couple figures out there own rules and guidelines for the playing...some only play together, others play separate sometimes but every one has to know it's happening ect. ect..

so why do they still feel the need to lie and why am i always stuck in the middle and asked to lie for them? I never thought it was going to be an issue...i guess people lie no matter what, makes me wonder who had lied to me...

merry cristmass!

so yet another Christmas has gone by, i missed not having any family to celebrate with, but i did get to spend Christmas with my FWB. not often i get laid on Christmas eve, so i can't complain too much. I actually really like him and loved spending Christmas with him...so too bad he can't keep up to me sexually, if he could things might be different. thank goodness he is not the jealous type...but then i wouldn't be seeing him if he was.

so now i am looking forward to the New Years swingers party. woohoo! so can't wait, i even have a date!. haven't met him yet though so it's kinda weired but we have an agreement, i give him a place to stay, guaranteed, and he pays for me and drives. and there is no pressure to have sex with him. probably will but he is willing to sleep on the couch if i turn out to not be interested in him. I actually only know one person at the party, the host, still haven't met his wife...but now's my chance i guess. I am getting soo excited about it, i haven't been to a swingers party since i went to the lifestyle convention in reno soo many years ago..i was in a monogamous relationship at the time so i wasn't allowed to play, just watch ( i was helping a friend with her booth) I've wanted to find a swinger group ever since then...

hope i have lots to talk about on the 1st!