lieing men

so what is it with men who lie to their girlfriends or wives? Now considering the men i am talking about are in open relationships, why do the still feel the need to lie? these men have it made, there women let them play with other women, they play with them...so they are getting 3somes and moressomes yet it is still not enough? they have to do more on the side without telling there women about it? ok a few examples

months ago i was seeing this guy, i had met his wife and basically had permission to sleep with her husband and use him as a booty call....so pretty damn open, you wouldn't think there was a need to lie right? wrong...they had a fight one night and she kicked him out for the night...he showed up at my place at two in the morning, so wee played and he spent the night, no biggy right? well later he told her he slept in his car that night. and i am asked to not tell her grrr.

ok so moving along
the biker couple--he found out the hard way that he is expected to tell his wife BEFORE he goes to play with someone, he told her about another girl he had played with and she got very upset, soo he didn't tell her he had been over here without telling her..not wanting to be i n extra trouble.....so once again i am asked to not say anything.

then a new couple i have just met, i met him while she was out of town.. we went out to the strip club and he spent the night on my couch...but we didn't play because i said i had to meet his wife first...soo his wife gets back in town and i meet up with them the other night...he comes to my dorr to get me and as we are walking to his car, i am told to not tell her we had met already because he didn't tell her...grrr again

then just yesterday i am talking to the host of the party, the swinger couple, and he has been over at least 3 times now and i haven't met her...he said she had a broken ankle....he is asking me to be discreet about him coming over and having met him at all....nice word discreet...nice way to say lie!

open relationships are supposed to be based on honesty, the whole idea is that you don't have to cheet and sneek around and lie you can be open about it...now every couple figures out there own rules and guidelines for the playing...some only play together, others play separate sometimes but every one has to know it's happening ect. ect..

so why do they still feel the need to lie and why am i always stuck in the middle and asked to lie for them? I never thought it was going to be an issue...i guess people lie no matter what, makes me wonder who had lied to me...