Stood up twice in one night!

what a horrible night! I've been talking to this guy, J, for a few weeks on msn. He works a lot so took a bit to pin him down for a date. We agreed tonight (saturday) he would meet me at 6pm. Now this guy has talked to me just about every day this last few weeks. but yesterday I didn't here from him, then nothing today to conferm the date. I had a bad feeling about it. Also a few days ago I heard about a fetish dance going on in my town this saturday, and a possible date, R,. I turned him down becouse i already had a date with J. even though i really wanted to go to the dance. Just before 6pm R was online still wanting to go to the dance. So I told him if I got stood up I would like to go to the dance with him. So when I got stood up I convinced him to come down. Apparently when he got here my quite little culdesac was exploding with a whole bunch of people arguing, and then yelling at j and asking him who he was and where he was going... I hear none of this...So he gave up on me and got out of there and went to the dance without me... Of course I forgot to give him my phone number. And to add to all this, as if it were not enough. J from my biker couple J and C. asked me today if there were anything going on in vernon tonight, like maybe a dance...he was going for a ride on his bike and wanted to see me tonight... i turned him down too becouse of the date i got stood up for. grrrrrr sooo months of nothing. then everyone wants to see me on the same day. I go with the one I made plans with first, even when I wanted to cancel. and I end up getting to see no one! ( you can laugh if you want, it's kinda funny) If J had just cancled I would have been able to make earlier plans with J or R and none of this would have happend. you just can't make this shit up I am getting sooo tired of this whole dating thing. How many more first dates am I going to have to have before I find someone? I also hate sitting at home knowing people are out having fun at an event I really want to go to.