lieing men

so what is it with men who lie to their girlfriends or wives? Now considering the men i am talking about are in open relationships, why do the still feel the need to lie? these men have it made, there women let them play with other women, they play with them...so they are getting 3somes and moressomes yet it is still not enough? they have to do more on the side without telling there women about it? ok a few examples

months ago i was seeing this guy, i had met his wife and basically had permission to sleep with her husband and use him as a booty call....so pretty damn open, you wouldn't think there was a need to lie right? wrong...they had a fight one night and she kicked him out for the night...he showed up at my place at two in the morning, so wee played and he spent the night, no biggy right? well later he told her he slept in his car that night. and i am asked to not tell her grrr.

ok so moving along
the biker couple--he found out the hard way that he is expected to tell his wife BEFORE he goes to play with someone, he told her about another girl he had played with and she got very upset, soo he didn't tell her he had been over here without telling her..not wanting to be i n extra trouble.....so once again i am asked to not say anything.

then a new couple i have just met, i met him while she was out of town.. we went out to the strip club and he spent the night on my couch...but we didn't play because i said i had to meet his wife first...soo his wife gets back in town and i meet up with them the other night...he comes to my dorr to get me and as we are walking to his car, i am told to not tell her we had met already because he didn't tell her...grrr again

then just yesterday i am talking to the host of the party, the swinger couple, and he has been over at least 3 times now and i haven't met her...he said she had a broken ankle....he is asking me to be discreet about him coming over and having met him at all....nice word discreet...nice way to say lie!

open relationships are supposed to be based on honesty, the whole idea is that you don't have to cheet and sneek around and lie you can be open about it...now every couple figures out there own rules and guidelines for the playing...some only play together, others play separate sometimes but every one has to know it's happening ect. ect..

so why do they still feel the need to lie and why am i always stuck in the middle and asked to lie for them? I never thought it was going to be an issue...i guess people lie no matter what, makes me wonder who had lied to me...

merry cristmass!

so yet another Christmas has gone by, i missed not having any family to celebrate with, but i did get to spend Christmas with my FWB. not often i get laid on Christmas eve, so i can't complain too much. I actually really like him and loved spending Christmas with him...so too bad he can't keep up to me sexually, if he could things might be different. thank goodness he is not the jealous type...but then i wouldn't be seeing him if he was.

so now i am looking forward to the New Years swingers party. woohoo! so can't wait, i even have a date!. haven't met him yet though so it's kinda weired but we have an agreement, i give him a place to stay, guaranteed, and he pays for me and drives. and there is no pressure to have sex with him. probably will but he is willing to sleep on the couch if i turn out to not be interested in him. I actually only know one person at the party, the host, still haven't met his wife...but now's my chance i guess. I am getting soo excited about it, i haven't been to a swingers party since i went to the lifestyle convention in reno soo many years ago..i was in a monogamous relationship at the time so i wasn't allowed to play, just watch ( i was helping a friend with her booth) I've wanted to find a swinger group ever since then...

hope i have lots to talk about on the 1st!

booty call/ and a first date

so i had a booty call the other day, the male half of the oler couple i play with, the bikers.
he was in town to go to some sort of meeting so he stopped by while he was in town.

have i mentioned before how amazing he is with his hands?
wowzer!
he makes me sooo wet, and he always makes me squert ALOT!
good thing i have lots of towles.
so we had fun, i came a few times and feeling so much better.
then he told me they were heading for the states for the winter in there camper. so going to miss them and his fingers lol


and last night i went on another first date with a new guy

it went ok, we had fun, came back here and he drank and we smoked oil and weed. the more drunk he got though the less he was making sence. he was deffinatly very into me and even told me about an fetish of his, pretty kinky- i promised to never tell anyone, so i can't even say what it is here...he loves weed like i do, he has a place on the lake and loves to camp as well...so all looks good and he seems nice...but i feel no spark-- nothing... is it me or him? and i wonder if i should go on a second date just to make sure.

sigh i have a feeeling it will be a long search for the right person
on the bright side i managed to get a date for the new years swingers party. he's driving up from a larger city so he needs a place to nap and shower and i need a date who will pay for me and drive me there...so he is going to be my escort, and we will see what happens from there.. last i heard there are about 10 single people going and like 20 some couples i can't wait. might be a good chance to meet the other single bi girls. I'm gonna flirt with all the girls all night long!

another first date

I had another first date last Saturday. he got here and we smoke a nice big joi nt while sharing a beer then went to the strip club. we partied there all night. he was fun, funny, and a gentleman. at one point he put his arm around my back and asked if that was ok. I said yes and thanked him for asking. we came back to my place and he drank more and we both smoked more weed and talked and laughed till 5am. i told him he could crash on the couch, he was pretty drunk. i kissed him good night and went to bed, he was gone when i woke up. all in all i had a good time and am proud of myself for not jumping him on the first date, was very tempting.
did i menttion he was married? she is out of town alot and they have an agreement that he can play, and we can all play when she is in town, so i have to meet her before i sleep with him....he says we are alot alike and will get along well, i sure hope so.

2 days of fun

so two posts on the same day i know, but after the bad date the next day i got to go out of town to my biker couples place. (they have been married for years he's mid 50's she's in her Early 60's)
I think they are a good example why age isn't everything. they are an amazing fun couple, and both of them are great in bed!

so
dear Penthouse... LOL always wanted to say that, been reading penthouse letters since i was in grade 7.

I went out on Thursday evening. he picked me up in his 42 truck and drove me out, we chatted and such on the way was a nice trip. when we got the there place she wasn't home yet so i went to the room he gave me right away and dressed up for them. white stockings, red plaid school girl skirt, white blouse tied in a knot at the bottom, top buttons not done up with a red and black lace bra showing underneath. No panties.

he got me a drink and we waited only a few minutes for her to get there. as she was making supper the playing started she had changed as well into a colorful silk nightly nice and short to show off her round bottom and very nice rack. we were playing with her boobs and ass as she stirred the food. then he bent me over the table and started rubbing my clit i was soo wet. then he started fingering me, he is soo very good with his hands made me come in minutes. then we cooled off a bit while we had dinner. but more to fallow after. we ended up int he bedroom after some flirting and taking off off cloths in the living room.
I'm not going to get into every detail (that would take too long to write)
first i was in the middle then her then him it was all over the place she would cum within minutes every time him or me touched her and me as well. we played with the double sided dildo, mine first, but was too hard, then hers, had some flex to it, over an over again us girls came, then Finaly he fucked me, and came, then she went down on me. us girls played for awhile longer. then we all had another drink so worn out and a bit sore i went to bed.

the next morning i awoke to a very naked woman, wanting to jump in the hot tub with me. was a nice soak with an amazing view.
later we went into town and she bought me a black lacy bra and some sexy black panties, and we went for lunch, just hung out and talked i really liked hanging out with her for the day.
when we got back i jumped int he shower got myself all cleaned up and dressed up for them again.
short jean skirt, the black bra she got me and purple lace sexy top with matching purple lace panties.
wasn't too long till we were in the bedroom again. this time things went on a lot longer, i came soo many times and her wow she just kept wanting more and more, just one more time again and again, she wore me and her husband out! i think he funnest part was the double sided dildo i was able to use the back of the bed as leverage and really fuck her good with it, and myself. soo got him going watching us, and twice he grabbed it in the middle and pulled it back and forth between us till we were both cumming at the same time...by the time i went to bed i was very sore, with a big assed grin on my face! slept very well and again woke up to a naked lady for a morning hot tub.

all in all a great weekend i can't believe and older lady like her wore me out and was still going! and even when we weren't having sex, we all seemed to get along great. i really enjoyed the whole weekend.

bad first dates

ok so i had i first date the other day, was a lunch date and i had assured the guy i wasn't going to sleep with him on the first date and probaby not even the second date.

I have too many first dates, only half the second dates and even less third dates, so i would be gettting around too much if i slept with everyone on the first or second date.

so we met at a local pub, i picked a seat but he didn't like ti, around too many people, so he insisted we go upstair where we are the only ones, for more privacy.

so he's asking all kinds of questions about me and being poly, hardly talking about himself even though i tried to ask him some questions. About every 5 minutes he told me how hot i was.
told me he hadn't had sex in 2 years becouse he was so picky. i highly dout that. my guess it's becouse he can't get a girl.

so as we are talking he starts reaching over and grabing at my leg like every 10 minutes.
then i notice his hand is under the table, and it looks to me like he is stroking himself!
if he wasn't not sure what he was doing, it was too long to be just adjusting himself or scratching. very creeepy.

then he reaches across the table and tries to grab my boob, right in the resteraunt! not a first date thing to do thats for sure.
so after he droped me off i was online with him and he asked me if my fiend was cute and if he could see a picture of her... now i had told him at lunch that i do not play with this friend, so why does it matter if she is cute? and why does he need her picture? again creepy.

so after thinking about it and sharing this with friends we all decided he is too creepy.

so this moning i tell him i don't want to see him again and why. he tells me i am delutional and he didn't want to see me again anyway-- but the only reason he gave me was that i didn't say thank you (for lunch) at the end of the date.... now maybe this is just me but i don't feel i need to say thank you on a date, maybe say i had a good time or just give them a kiss at the end (can tell alot from a kiss) why should i thank him? not like he did me a huge favor, he wanted to see me too, so why didn't he thank me?

sometimes you just gotta shake your head and move on...

so other bad dates i have had, ready for a laugh??

one guy took me to a sports bar, and the whole night watched the game over my shoulder, even turned the game on in the car on the drive home....if you are that into a game make the date another night, right?

another guy was on his way to pick me up, i was giving him directions to a local store...then i heard another guy in the car, i asked who it was, he told me that we were droping him off before our date. he actually expected me to get into a car, on a first date with two guys in the car! a girl could get raped doing something like that, and he realy realy didn't get how it was so wrong... for months after he would call me and try to get me to go out with him.

another guy, after he got a little tippsy kept going on about office workers, he aparently didn't like them and was under the oppinion that they thought to much of themselves ect ect. he went on for a bit...when i am working i am a file clerk (office worker)... he just seemed so angry, i think he resented them just becouse they made more money then he did... to angry for me anyways.

and before you think it is just the guys

had a first date with a woman a few years back, the date went fine (i thought) but when i got back to her she accused me of steeling her phone! like just becouse i am poor i would steel her phone. she lost it i guess that night, but for her to be soo sure it was me, like every poor person is a thief....kinda hurt.

well that is all for bad dates for now, hope you had a good chuckle

friends with beifits

generally in the past when i have had friends with benefits they are more benefits then friends. this time around he is more friend then benefits. not through lack of trying.

the thing is he has MS and he had well issues with staying up and having an orgasm. Viagra works for keeping him up, but he still has a hard time cumming, and Viagra is expensive as well so only have it to use once in awhile. then as well just has a low sex drive and most nights he has a lot of nerve pain because of his MS or he is just too tired and worn out because of his MS. i think it is getting frustrating for the both of us.

i told him about my unexpected visitor that same day and asked him to come over in case the guy did come back, he didn't of course really didn't expect him to.
so me and my FWB decided we would play anyways, he toke his Viagra and i put on a porno. we kissed and played and i went down on him. he loved it but on big O. i played with my vibrator while he fingered me i had a big O. but when i tried to get back to him he started having pain in his head (nerve pain) and it wouldn't go away. So we learned that pain trumps Viagra. he couldn't get hard at all.

so frustrating for both of us. I told him he would have to start coming over in the mornings when he has no pain and has more energy.

on the plus side i do like having him come over, and he is over a lot. it's nice having someone to talk to and cuddle up with while watching movies.

Unexpected visitor

so I hear a knock at the door and it is a guy I thought I would never see again. I met him early this year. he comes over and expects sex, well i do fuck him when he shows, then he tells me he is coming back later or the next day with some booze and weed to party a bit, but the thing is he never comes back!
so again today he shows up. As i mentioned before it's been awhile since I've gotten laid so i am a bit easier to convince. I'm such a slut when it's been awhile.

so he sits down and right away grabs my boob and starts playing with my nipple, hard, almost too hard. then he asks where my toy dildo is, i grab it and after giving him head for a bit I lay back and he starts fucking me with my dildo, soo fast it's not long before i start to cum, but he doesn't stop, just keeps going till i have a few more orgasms. then he asks if i can get my cuffs. ( he likes abuse) so i grab the cuffs and the whip i made for Halloween. I cuff him up and straddle him on the couch. suck his dick, and bite and whip him making him moan rather nicely. he asks me to choke him with the whip then...now I've never done this before (yea another first!) so i wrapped it around his neck making it snug but not cutting of his circulation and continue licking and sucking and biting him. the he asks me to talk dirty to him, now i am good at talking dirty on line just writing it, but out loud I never know what to say, so I just told him I wasn't good at that...I should practice with someone maybe, get better at the dirty talk....so by now I just want to get fucked, so I put the condom on him and ask him to fuck me from behind, but just before he does he pulls the condom off and says he doesn't want to fuck me yet, he wants to wait till tonight when he comes back, so I sit on the couch and he stands on it while I suck him off, then he grabs it and starts masturbating while I lick the tip. when he cums I back up and let him cum on my tits.

then he got dressed and left promising to come back around 6 tonight...my bet is he does his disappearing act again and I won't see him for a few months again when he decides he's horny again..but I did tell him if he didn't come back tonight I wouldn't let him come in next time ( me putting my foot down after I get laid LOL)

the really bad thing is that I don't remember his name! I Haven't seen him for months so his name left my memory bank awhile ago to make room for the names of other people I've met that are still around.

He actually tried to tell me he was bringing a friend of his with him when he came back, I told him no I have to meet people in a no sex gonna happen environment before sleeping with him and anyways he doesn't come around often enough to have the bring a friend privilege.. he also kept talking about finding me a girl to play with even saying he wanted to get a hooker that was into girls...I'm not to keen on this plan either hookers get around too much, when I told him that he said well so do strippers...my answer..strippers sleep with who they want to, hookers sleep with whoever gives them money...a bit different.

so I am not sure about this guy, he's just wanting someone to fuck when he shows up out of the blue, problem is that when he shows up it always seems to be when I am horny so I'm letting him do this to me. I think I won't next time, but that's what I said last time. maybe I just like that he likes abuse and pain. he's deffinatly NOT Mr. right....so why do i waist my time with him...just hornyness? I'm not even sure.

halloween

well this has been a dismal nothing happening boring month to start a sex blog!
i haven't had sex in 3 weeks! going on 4 weeks now becousse i have my period AGAIN, only two weeks in between this month and those two weeks i was sick with the swine flue.
i told my FWB that i might just jump him and have messy sex this week. i'm sooo not used to going this long without, I am a bit addicted to sex. i get all stressed and figity i've even been known to pace like a caged animal if it's been to long. unfortunatly the longer it's been since i've had sex the less picky i get about who i sleep with, if it's been about a month i am usually ready to jump the next person i see!

for halloween this year i was just barely over the flue so me and my FWB went to the local strip club. i dressed him up as a zombie and i was the zomby killer, i had chaps and a leather corssett, so much clevage that i was almost falling out. we had a blast. whenever the strippers weren't on and there was a good song i'de get up and dance and gave FWB a lap dance, he loved it and i got alot of attention from the other people in the bar too. oh and at the end of the night i got to make out with one of the strippers. would have liked to do more... maybe next time.

so thats my big excitement for the month, kinda lame i know, hoping to have more fun after this week goes by.. my biker couple want me to go out to there place for a day and be their sex slave, can't wait! they have been waiting for me to get better.

there is also possibly a swinger party at the swinger couples place for new years, they were thinking this month but now it's not till new years...hoping they don't change there minds again, sounds like a great way to spend the newyears!

well that all for now, hoping next time i get on here i'll have more to write about.

bios people have on the date sites

just want to make a few comments on some very bad bios.
here's a list of things i have seen that you should NOT ever do
--very scary looking picture with messy hair and a dirty look
--having a picture of you dick as your main pic..sooo distasteful! i don't want to see it till am sleeping with you...your dick is not your best asset!
--writing like 2 sentences for a bio that tells me nothing about you
--under interests..if all you have are cunnilingus and kissing.( actual bio i saw today) tells me you are boring...you gotta have more interests then that!
--bragging about your dick size....personally i like average sized dicks i turn guys down if i think they are too big to fit me... i would rather you brag about your abilities in bed then dick size
--having no picture, i put more importance on ability in bed then looks but it is always nice to see who i am talking to, seems like they are hiding something if they don't have a picture up.
and most of all NEVER lie on your profile. this one guy said in his profile that he was a one woman man when he found the right one...but he e-mailed ME the queen of poly LOL so asked him why he would want me when he said he was into monogamy...his answer..."well if i said i was (poly) then no one would answer me" funny thing is, the one woman who wanted something similar to him (me) wont answer him because he lied... the ones who are answering his bio are not looking for the same thing....does this make any sense to anyone?

you have to be honest about who and what you are looking for, even if it is hard to find like what i am looking for. I do not see the point of dating a bunch of people who do not want what i want... such a wast of time!

bottom line people.. take your time with your bios on date sites, put as much information as you can about you, your hobbies, and what you are looking for...for the picture get a friend to come over and do a photo shoot.. try on different cloths and get lots of pics, then take the best few and use those

just make an effort, not rocket science.

Looking Back, my favorate wild night

OK well I've been sick for a bit so haven't got any new things to say so i though i would write about one of my favorite nights.

this was a few years back i was dating this cutie, I'll call her R. her best friend/x-boyfriend. was having a birthday party. I'll call super hero guy (he's really into comics and stuff). well apparently he had bad luck with his birthdays in the past, always had bad things happen and hadn't had a good birthday in years. So we all went to the bar where he worked, me and R his girlfriend, bubble bum I'll call her, and a few others. me and R we planning on spending the night at super hero's place. i as we got as few drinks in us we decided that we were going to play with him and his girlfriend that night...but apparently she had similar plans with one of her friends. we were out having a smoke and she was all I'm gonna be his birthday present, so i replied that we were going to be his present too. later when another friend of his (my x-wife's best friend, small world) i told her what was going on and she told me she had been invited as well. so in the end he was going to sleep with all the girls at the party 5 of us in all. at the end of the night we went to Denny's for a bite, on the way in this guy behind us make a joke about super hero's out fit (he was dressed in full kilt) so i informed him that he may look funny but he was taking 5 girls home tonight! LOL

so anyway we all got back to the apartment, and we took turns showering in pairs. while i was in the shower with my girl R super hero came in and pulled the curtain aside a bit and was playing with our boobs and pussies, we weren't in for much longer after that, we got out and i found myself on the bed with my x-wife's best friend, I'll call her R2. i started caressing her nipples and ample breasts, I said wow did you ever think we would be doing this?! and she told me she had thought about it a few times. i thought that was kinda cool. i layed her down and licked and nibbled on her nipples. once every one was showered it got kinda crazy, we had dragged the mattress from the other room to the floor of the bedroom so we had the bed and the mattress to play on. he was going from one girl to another like a kid in a candy store, i watched as he went down on my girl, i gave him head, i played with boobs, oh soo many boobies! watched him fuck his girl, she has such a large bubble bum, very nice. he and others went down on me, so many hands and mouths always at least 2 people touching you at any given time. then he stroked himself till he cam all over a few our boobs. eventually he fell asleep, but us girls kept going. one went home so there were only 4 of us, so we made a train. two girls on the bed the first on her back getting licked by the second who was bend over the bed on her knees, so my girl R went on her back under her and was licking her, so i went to her and fingered her and licked her, all of us moaning and licking and cumming.

it was one of the most amazing nights of my life and definitely the most people i have slept with at once, it helped that there was only one guy and the rest girls, i am a total slut when it comes to girls, I am like a guy, if i think I'm gonna get some i am all over it, no need to ask twice LOL.

well hope that entertained you

finding someone online

it's not as easy as it looks to find someone on these web sites. i can get say 10 e-mails a week (thats being generus lol) lets say half of them get my interest, i write back and ask them what kind of relationship they are looking for and ask what they do for fun.. i figure it gives me a general idea of them. based on there answeres i might give one of them my msn address, some people end up on my msn for months without them ever having time to see me, i just give up on them after awile.. i few i get to meet, for a first date meet and greet, some disapear after that 9not interested i guess) and some i am not interested in seeing again...once in awile i see them a second time and even more rarely i see them a third time... so i am basickly still single and looking.. i am finding that the couples are sooo much more reliable then the single guys... single guys stand me up alot, they make a date i go, and wait for like half an hour and no show (i only wait half an hour) very frustrating. I have yet to meet a single bi girl.. us bi girls seem to all be taken lol.

today i had an e-mail from i guy who was all excited becouse he has the same dream vacation as i do (hedonisim resort) just to bad he lives a few towns away... traveling to see him would be difficult.
then there is the much much older guy who lives in baleze.. is in Canada for a visit then going back..I've been e-mailing back and forth the last couple days.. i have to ask myself though. am I more interested in him just becouse he lives in Baleze and i am hoping at some point to get to go? is that gold digging in a way? would i even have writen back if he was living somewhere else/ and really what kind of long distance relationship can i have with a guy who lives in a differant country?

things to ponder anyways

intro

OK so I've never done blogging before, very new to this but i thought it would be fun.
i write how i talk, so don't expect perfect spelling or grammar.
so about me and what i am trying to do
i am using 2 websites to try and find the right person and possibly fall in love.
the twist is that I an bi-sexual and will never give up one sex for the other, so it follows that I am into threesomes and moresomes. i consider myself polyamourus or a swinger.
i believe that monogamous relationships don't work out well, for me anyways.
i don't think that any one person can meet all of another persons needs. That is why people cheat, they get something out of it that their partner is not providing. even if it's just the excitement of someone new. if a person cheats, there is lying and secrecy... this is the worst thing for a relationship, because they are based on mutual trust, once that is gone u have nothing.

in a poly or open relationship, there is honesty. i tell people up front i don't do monogamy and that i am a swinger. i am even open about it to my friends, which is rare.. most swingers are quit about it and don't want their friends, or neighbors to know they are swingers. but they are everywhere. even in the small towns around the small town i live in.

so for this blog i will use nick names for the people i play with or date, and not tell anyone where in Canada i live except that it's a small town.

so I've lived in this small town for almost a year now, i moved here from a big city.. easier way of life here, and cheaper then living int he city. I've met a lot of people on the web site so far, lots of first dates, less second dates ect. still looking for the right person to come along.

but i have met some very nice couples as well. the oldest couple i play with are over 50, I'll call them "the old bikers" he's got a nice motorbike. I've only seen them a couple times so far, but they are a lot of fun, she cums so quickly (like 2 minutes) and can do that all night! and he is good at getting me to that state, where I've cum so many times that he can just make me cum in no time at all. great fun and proves that age has nothing to do with it.

the second couple i play with are a bit younger, in their 40's, i will call them GL, they are very very into oral, mostly giving him head. come into town and get a hotel room for us to play and always take me for dinner first, they are really good people.

for the 3rd couple, well i haven't met her yet, she has an injury she is recovering from so I've only met him so far, they have swinger parties at their house i haven't been to one yet but am looking forward to the one in November. lets call them "the swingers" i can't wait to meet her but he is fun, the first day i met him he dared me to skip the meet and greet coffee thing and just be naked when i answered the door. i was really horny that day so i took his dare, and even let him tie me up and blindfold me when he got here.

there is another couple i have met but have not yet played with so they don't get a nick name yet 9 don't know what to call them yet lol)

now don't miss understand i don't get to see them all the time, generally about once a month for GL and even less for the old bikers. seen the male half of the swingers a few times in the last 2 months but still haven't met her...most people who swing don't do it ALL the time, the couples get busy with work and there own lives then when they have some time they get a hold of me and we plan a play date.

there is a guy i am seeing, calling it friends with benefits. we get along good and he is always over, unfortunately he has MS. He gets around with a walker, so when we have sex i pretty much have to be on top (good work out for my legs lol) I like him a lot but just don't see a future with him, I'm just not falling in love with him. I'll call him my FWB (friend with benefits) the good thing about him is he can't work (on disability) he has LOTS of time for me and i like hanging out with him, but he has a lower sex drive, so we don't have sex as often as i would like. we cuddle and watch movies a lot though.

so i am still on a search for someone i can fall in love with and share my swinger life style with. either a bi girl or buy. i don't date lesbians anymore... they wouldn't be into a threesome with a guy...

so this blog is about that search, and all the fun and playing i get to do along the way. I'll keep you posted on dates and play dates as best i can.

so till next time
--wildflower @-->--